As women, we often find making room for kindness and self-care a bit challenging as it can seem a bit self-indulgent. And too frequently we put others needs before our own?
I can well remember how often I took the burnt bits of toast, or let my son have the last chocolate, or went without the ice cream because we couldn’t quite afford one for everyone.
Most importantly developing and nurturing loving kindness towards ourselves is an essential part of health, healing and happiness.
Therefore to get you started, I’ve put together twelve tips you might find useful:
First of every morning set yourself a plan to do something just for you. It doesn’t have to be ground-breaking. It could be as simple as making time for a coffee break.
Be in Nature
Take some time every day to spend some time in nature, in your garden, in a park or at the beach. Nature is very healing and soothing. It allows us to get in touch with all our senses – smell the flowers, feel the air or sun on your skin, hear the birds or the waves or watch a sunset.
End Toxic Relationships
Another vital part of self-care is to put an end to relationships that drain your energy. Do it now, for the simple reason that these types of relationships exhaust you and make you unhappy. Anyone who doesn’t make you feel amazing doesn’t deserve to be in your life.
Keep a Gratitude Journal
Similarly noting down at the end of each day all things that you’re grateful for.. However small these moments are they are worth noting down. It could be the sun shining through the window, the hugs you get from your kids, the smile you got from the lady in the shop. As a result of capturing this daily gratitude practice, we train our brains to look for the good and this flow through to greater self-care.
Move Your Beautiful Body
Likewise getting touch with our bodies is healing and calming. Take a restorative yoga class, swim or go for a walk. Something simple and gentle. You’ll be amazed how much these can de-stress you.
Learn to Say NO!
Remember it’s OK to do this and learn to stay within your limits. So there’s no need to feel guilty when you say it with respect and compassion. Smart people know when to say no.
Enjoy Your Food
As women, we can have complicated relationships with food. Consequently, we can skip meals or not spend time really enjoying our food.Therefore, cook a simple meal, take time to indulge in the smell and taste of your food. Or sip and savour your morning coffee. Feel how this helps to focus your mind and in turn calms you down.
Another fantastic and fun way to bring more kindness into your life is to have a big deep belly laugh. It’s an excellent workout for your inner organs, and the rush of good hormones will balance out the cortisol and other stress hormones and give you a real lift.
While you may think you’re not the creative type, dance, sing, paint, draw, do some colouring in. Have fun doing it, release your inner-child. Doing this with your kids is a great way to have fun.
Keep Your Inner Critic At Bay
Don’t let that nasty little inner voice tell you that you’re not good enough. Also, remember thoughts are not facts. They’re just a stream of mental events.
Take Time Each Day For Yourself
Most importantly, find time to sit quietly at some point in the day. So make time 5 or 10 minutes of quiet in your day. Connect deeply with yourself without judgement or trying to make anything happen.
Be Kind To Yourself
And finally be kind and patient with yourself. Also, remember that learning to be kind to yourself takes time. But it’s so worth it! And remember “You are the best you can be at this moment”.
Do you have any other tips to add to the list? Please share in the comments below.
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